WHAT ABOUT THE KIDS?
IT CAN HURT WHEN YOUR FAMILY DOESN'T LOOK LIKE YOU HOPED, OR WORSE YET, IMPLODES. IT CAN HURT EVEN MORE WHEN YOU MAKE THE HARD CHOICE TO REMOVE YOURSELF FROM A DESTRUCTIVE RELATIONSHIP ONLY TO HAVE TO SEND YOUR KIDS BACK INTO IT EVERY OTHER WEEK OR ON HOLIDAYS.
These days we see a lot of emphasis placed on the “nuclear family,” which means more pressure to appear perfect as a family unit, and to not step outside of it for help. We also see how quick people are to claim, “kids are resilient,” as if it excused their exposure to bad behavior on behalf of a parent or family member. Maybe you’ve been hiding the reality of family life behind closed doors. Maybe you’ve been smiling through your pain as you wonder how it’s possible for children to be so resilient, if all your upbringing taught you was how to allow the cycle of toxicity to continue. Or maybe you are just tired of doing it all…. Alone.
this is where we come in
We are Mosaic Motherhood!
Welcome to my corner of the world!
I was sitting in church one Sunday, pre-COVID with tears streaming down my face. The chairs were packed, but nobody offered me a tissue, and nobody asked if I was ok. On the screen a father swung his little boy around like Superman, while Chainsmoker’s “Something Just Like This” played through the speakers. I remember thinking about my husband who was at home, instead of the seat next to me, my parents over 1000 miles away, and the people hanging out together after service that I would walk by with envy. Just like you, I understand the feeling of being lonely in a crowded room. I know what it’s like to live in a family that people assume is great from the outside, but inside you feel isolated, divided and alone. Without a strong sense of community or resources, I was not doing a great job of parenting my children or taking care of myself. But all of that was about to change.