­­WHAT ABOUT THE KIDS?

IT CAN HURT WHEN YOUR FAMILY DOESN'T LOOK LIKE YOU HOPED, OR WORSE YET, IMPLODES. IT CAN HURT EVEN MORE WHEN YOU MAKE THE HARD CHOICE TO REMOVE YOURSELF FROM A DESTRUCTIVE RELATIONSHIP ONLY TO HAVE TO SEND YOUR KIDS BACK INTO IT EVERY OTHER WEEK OR ON HOLIDAYS.

These days we see a lot of emphasis placed on the “nuclear family,” which means more pressure to appear perfect as a family unit,  and to not step outside of it for help. We also see how quick people are to claim, “kids are resilient,” as if it excused their exposure to bad behavior on behalf of a parent or family member.  Maybe you’ve been hiding the reality of family life behind closed doors. Maybe you’ve been smiling through your pain as you wonder how it’s possible for children to be so resilient, if all your upbringing taught you was how to allow the cycle of toxicity to continue. Or maybe you are just tired of doing it all…. Alone.

this is where we come in

We understand that motherhood & co-parenting is exhausting. We know that the last thing you want to do is wage another battle (because the harder you try to fight a narcissist, the more likely he is to win), and that you need to put your own oxygen mask on first. We also know that when women focus too much on themselves, they begin to lose the biggest piece of the way they were made – their ability to create life and love; and their reciprocal ability to receive, and we won’t rest until you win the war for your children(s)’ well-being. We understand that by nature, the Christian faith makes this slightly more complex and confusing, and that parenting alongside a difficult individual carries with it the often-hidden heartache of disappointment, discouragement, and fear for your children’s future.
Does this mean that happily married mothers aren’t welcome here? That we don’t accept those of other beliefs and backgrounds? ABSOLUTELY NOT! It just means that we recognize the heart cry of the mama whose heart first broke for herself, and now breaks for her children; and her search for resources to help them navigate the storm she just went through! It means that we will talk about Jesus and what He desires for us in this season and in this life.
 
And what about the Mosaic part? Well, that’s what we choose to call our Village. Just as the individual tiles in mosaic art are unique in themselves and make up a beautifully cohesive picture when added together, we are all unique and individual, and collectively we are one. We are a circle, a sisterhood, a society, the Family of God. And although we may each go about it differently, we all have the same goal: to be the woman and mother God has called us to be. Here, we will not stand idly by while women are being empowered to stand up against domestic destruction, while kids are left to fend for themselves within it. It takes a village to raise a child. We are that village.

We are Mosaic Motherhood!

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Welcome to my corner of the world!

I was sitting in church one Sunday, pre-COVID with tears streaming down my face. The chairs were packed, but nobody offered me a tissue, and nobody asked if I was ok. On the screen a father swung his little boy around like Superman, while Chainsmoker’s “Something Just Like This” played through the speakers. I remember thinking about my husband who was at home, instead of the seat next to me, my parents over 1000 miles away, and the people hanging out together after service that I would walk by with envy. Just like you, I understand the feeling of being lonely in a crowded room. I know what it’s like to live in a family that people assume is great from the outside, but inside you feel isolated, divided and alone. Without a strong sense of community or resources, I was not doing a great job of parenting my children or taking care of myself. But all of that was about to change.

HI, I'M JESS!

My world runs on coffee, Jesus & spicy chocolate. It’s made entertaining by sarcastic banter. I believe faith begins where religion ends, being a business owner makes me a better mom, and being a mom makes me a better business owner. I also think pranks, shenanigans, and epic surprises make the best hobbies, and it is my mission to see Disney Dads abolished, because Fun Moms have taken over the world!
I know the pain of living in a destructive marriage, and the agony of trying to navigate co-parenting after leaving my marriage. I also know first hand, how hard it is to face the excruciating reality of that same sort of destruction in your family of origin. But I am here to tell you there is hope!
 
One week after my divorce was finalized, my ex and I packed the kids in his car and took them on a family vacation to Mexico. Now, before you write me off as someone who clearly has NO idea what you’re going through, let me explain.
There is no way that vacation would have happened without strong boundaries on my part. There is also no way it would have happened without months of my conscious, daily decisions to act in the best interest of my children. Finally, there is no way that vacation would have happened if I had not had a supportive community around me. Since that day in church, I have gone from being isolated, to seen; from divided, to living in the sweet spot, where my kids and I function as a team, but most of all, I went from a Solo Mom to a warrior mom, with an army behind me. I have seen, both from experience, and from watching countless other women try to divorce a covert abuser, that the court will likely not protect your children – it’s up to you, but I can help!
 
During my journey to freedom, I gained certifications in Trauma Support, Mental Health Coaching, Neuro Linguistic Programming, and Tru 316 Bible Study resources. I have been building communities for over 20 years, in English and Spanish, across all of North America. I combine this experience with my expertise in coaching and facilitating to give you strategies and techniques to help you on your own post-traumatic parenting journey.

I DON’T WANT TO JUST GIVE YOU PLATITUDES ABOUT SETTING BOUNDARIES AND GETTING INVOLVED IN A SMALL GROUP; I WANT TO GIVE YOU ACTIONABLE STEP-BY-STEP INSTRUCTIONS FOR HOW TO SHOW UP AUTHENTICALLY, BUILD YOUR VILLAGE, AND EMPOWER YOUR CHILDREN TO NAVIGATE THE DIFFICULTY THEY STILL FACE WITH THEIR DESTRUCTIVE FAMILY MEMBER.

Who’s in?